Amber Merten
With Father’s Day just behind us, we’re reminded of the lasting impact fathers have on our lives. A beautiful example of a father-daughter bond built on love, faith, and unwavering devotion is with one of our clients and his daughter Marcia.
Growing up, Marcia’s father was deeply involved in her life, attending school activities, supporting her interests, and teaching her valuable lessons about faith, family, and serving other. He and Marcia’s mother were married for 50 years, creating a home filled with love, stability, and strong values.
As her parents grew older, the roles gradually began to change.
Facing Dementia and Loss
Marcia’s father was diagnosed with early-stage dementia while his wife was still caring for him. At first, the signs were subtle and he was able to maintain his independence and everyday routines.
Then came another major life change.
After the loss of his wife at the end of the year, Marcia’s father suffered a stroke. His balance became less stable, his memory declined further, and it became clear that he would need additional support to remain safe.
For Marcia, the decision about what to do next had already been made years earlier.
“I always told my dad the only home he’d ever be in was the one he built.”
Because she knew how important staying home would be to him, Marcia had spent years preparing financially for the possibility that he would someday need care. She also educated herself, taking healthcare-related courses and learning everything she could about caring for someone with dementia.
She believed one of the most important things for people living with dementia is being surrounded by familiar places, routines, and memories. That belief became the foundation of her father’s care journey.
The Power of Teamwork
Marcia understood that successful care requires partnership. Just as her father was hands-on with her growing up, Marcia was hands-on with his care. She made it a priority to get to know each caregiver personally and communicate openly about her father’s needs, routines, and preferences.
She worked closely with the Synergy HomeCare team to ensure caregivers understood what was expected and what helped her father thrive. Sometimes those conversations were easy, other times difficult, but Marcia never hesitated to speak up when something needed attention.
Because dementia can make change difficult, Marcia preferred keeping the same caregivers whenever possible. Familiar faces helped her father feel comfortable and secure. However, when caregiver changes were necessary, she focused on finding the next great fit rather than dwelling on the transition.
The caregivers who stood out most were those who were communicative, honest, and fully present. “The best caregivers weren’t on their phones,” she said. “They were engaging with him, talking with him, and paying attention to what he liked.”
Leading With Love
One thing caregivers quickly noticed was how involved Marcia remained throughout her father’s care. She was present, checked in frequently, and communicated regularly. Most importantly, she made sure her father always knew he was loved.
Marcia also understood that caring for caregivers matters too. She wanted them to feel welcome and appreciated in her father’s home. If there were snacks or foods they enjoyed, she would often make sure they were available. Her goal was to create an environment where caregivers felt comfortable and supported so they could focus on providing excellent care.
Advice for Other Family Caregivers
Caring for an aging parent can be one of life’s most rewarding experiences, but it can also be emotionally and physically demanding.
Marcia encourages other adult children to remember that they cannot do everything alone.
“When people offer to help, accept it.”
She learned that maintaining her own well-being was essential. Activities that helped her recharge, such as exercising, remained important even while caring for her father.
You cannot pour from an empty cup! Taking care of yourself allows you to continue showing up for the people who depend on you.
A Journey She Is Proud Of
When asked what she is most proud of, Marcia’s answer is simple. She saw the journey through to the end.
Her father knew he was loved. He knew he was cared for. He had what he needed. Most importantly, he was able to remain in the place that meant the most to him—his home.
Marcia’s story reminds us that the bond between a father and daughter can last a lifetime. The lessons her father taught her as a child came full circle as she cared for him in his later years. Through every challenge, every difficult decision, and every act of advocacy, Marcia honored the man who had always been there for her. This Father’s Day, we celebrate fathers like Marcia’s—and daughters like Marcia—whose love, dedication, and commitment show us the true meaning of family.
