Benevolent probing is a simple way for adult children to assess their loved ones' needs from a distance. This tactic combines careful observation and considerate conversation to gauge a loved one's health and wellness in a respectful, non-threatening way. It is common for the aged population to strongly guard their independence and feel threatened and afraid when topics arise that risk the lifestyle they are used to and comfortable living. 

The vast majority of seniors prefer to “age-in-place” or continue living in their own homes or communities. According to aarp.org, “nearly 90 percent of people over age 65 want to stay in their home for as long as possible, and 80 percent believe their current residence is where they will always live.”